Communicate, understand and try to accept if it seems ok for you, else "Let It Go". Because by every single adjustment you make in a relationship, you are paving the magma to an "emotional volcano" waiting to erupt.
For some reasons, the society/family has inculcated that the success of a relationship lies in adjustment. Being a girl, you are going to to be part of another family after wedding and would need to learn the "art of adjustment sugared with patience". This is the whole essence of teaching, a normal girl recieves directly or indirectly from her surroundings.
Why is it that the female who have to adjust always? Why not her opposite gender? Now lets keep the gender apart. Moreover why one should adjust in a relationship? If we see a red flag in a relationship, why we need to cover it up and adjust? When you feel that something is not right, then it's not right. Trust your senses. Why you have to ponder over and find another dimension and make it appear right to you/society? Ignoring the red flags and moving on is the biggest mistake we do. By somehow saving the relationship, we are not living the life we want - we are not happy and content. We are just fooling ourselves for the sake of society. Also, we must understand that there is a threshold for everything, the so called patience, tolerance, adjustments - it will only last till then. At the end the volcano will erupt - today or tomorrow!!!
We are given a single beautiful life, we are the owners, lets paint it colorful. Never think of adding grey shades to your life. Communication is what keep forth the relationship and not adjustments. Communicate - open up, be bold to tell your thoughts and opinions. Have open communication, try to find out a junction where both can come upto and its not giving up and adjusting. Speak out the differences, find the common thoughts, find what both are ok with and move accordingly. It makes the relationship stronger and helps to grow better together. You can have a calm and happy mind, rather than piling up all the negativities for a future outbreak.
Live the life you love. And not striving yourselves to love the life you live. Let the lava calms down for a better future together.
But these were the olden days when your parents or grand parents had this hard time. When you live with your partner miles away, the adjustments you have talked about is from both ends and not just on a girl. Whatever sacrifices you as a girl feel you have made, even though it is not to that extent, the male counterpart has given for you or his life. This comment was not to put up an argument, but a thought. :)
ReplyDeleteUnderstanding is the key for a happy life.. Adjustments as you said is temporary..
ReplyDeleteNicely written
ReplyDeleteLove you to the moon and back sweet heart...
ReplyDeleteAdjustments=Imprisonment
ReplyDeleteA person(s) who loves us will never push us to make an adjustment
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