Friday, June 17, 2011

Virginity is not a dignity, but lack of opportunity....


Few years before when my friend told me this statement i find it difficult to agree and i argued a bit. Though i was convinced to a certain extend that time itself, i couldn't swallow it completely. But now when i am put to a new environment and when i came to know the things around me i feel i should agree to it fully. earlier too many people put forth arguments supporting the statement but that time i couldn't accept it fully because i never knew such gals personally other than 'stories'. And i strongly believe in these kind of topics, we shouldn't trust unless we know things clearly. And now i see girls n boys 'enjoying' life in all means. I really doubt is love an another word for sexual relation or not?? because that is what am able to see around me. Once classrooms were considered as a holy place, but now we should be careful while opening a closed classroom,. In many colleges during tech fests which lasts three or four days, people could find condoms and such stuffs thrown  in the campus corners. Its sad that students are turning out classrooms to be a place for such activities and i think its better not to open any closed classroom without making any noise why to have a 'free show'. i guess its better to have cams in every class at least then such nonsenses can be avoided na. Enjoying vacation with your lover in resorts and all, when they plan on such things at least for a moment why cant they just think of their family- their parents??? I am sure these children are never gonna succeed in their life going for such craps. There will be people asking me why u have to bother its one's choice?? To those people let me ask back a question. Are we all Indians?? Is this our culture?? Have an affair go have sexual relation, is it our culture??Are we taught like that?? The ones who go for these things will surely justify their acts in one way or other but however hard i try i couldn't find any justification for these acts. Among the girls whom i know very well now, majority of the gals who remain virgin are the ones who didn't get an opportunity yet, sorry to say but thats the truth in front of me.Only few are the ones who boldly said  NO to such things. There was an incident which made me feel pity n at the same time time hatredness to the guys. The way a guy begged for atleast a 5 minute sex chat even after hearing all the shout outs from the girl. Isn't he ashamed to behave in such a way. oops it was horrible, a guy should never do so, who knows maybe he is just another spineless creature, lol. From a school, some students were dismissed and the offence was like they were found in an unhealthy situation inside the bus during free period and their age..that was the thing that made me sad. Even in such younger stage what all these children are doing and i strongly believe internet does have an influence for such acts. All use to complaint about bangalorian life, why to go till bangalore, just look around you, you may find many worser things than that. Its 1 year back only i realized how dangerous your roommate can turn out to be. we can never be sure about the people around us, being friends we allow them to take our snaps and all, who knows they wont misuse it?? Still i remember that beautiful gal who was just 17 or 18 years old who brought all troubles to her roommates and later got dismissed from the college. It was difficult for many of us to accept those things in the first go, later on we understood life is not as beautiful as we see and how many pits are awaiting us. What that matters is how you handle things, how you hold up your mind. Now a days its seen that  its a shame to say that you are still  virgin after being into a love relation. See how the attitude of youngsters have changed. If one says he/she is neat in their relation, the response of their friends will be like aren't you ashamed to say this, then why you are into a relation, without sex what sort of love and all craps. The friends are also having an important role in spoiling others i must say, but it does have an another side, if a friend among the gang says against this no one is gonna listen him/her. If u have a scorpio/bolero and Rs.2000 in your hand you can have a beautiful girl from XXXX(School name), this was the comment made by one of my friends. This was the comment i heard around 6 years back and i wonder what will be the condition now. Then comes another group spirituality through sexuality!!! oops still i cant digest it and never i will, its better i don't go more into that stuff. what all justifications people bring for getting into a sexual relation. Sex is part of one's life as important as any other feelings, but these days its been given more emphasis that too in a wrong sense, i feel it should be felt with its sanctity rather going for these kinda idiotic acts which gives you temporary pleasure. Friends should be for one's goodness, be careful when you choose your friends and also parents must see that your child is not away from you..beyond your reach. Parents should know what their child is doing, where he/she is going, who all are his/her friends, but it never means they should be chained like hell.  By this i never want to say that 100% are like this but sorry to say the majority is. 

11 comments:

  1. can it be Cureable??? wht you think!!!
    real post...
    regards
    Rahul

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  2. itz really a BIG THOUGHT .. nice post!

    words comically impressed! .."Among the girls whom i know very well now, those who remain virgin are the ones who didn't get an opportunity yet, sorry to say but thats the truth in front of me" ...

    gud job!! ..keep writinnNN ...

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  3. Good Post Aathi.Nice!.Thoughts are goods...

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  4. i appreciate ur boldness to speak about these subjects as a lady.
    Am also think same as what u said.
    It hurts but true fact.

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  5. Simply bold and thought provoking!!

    'enjoying life' is just the only policy of the majority of our society. Interestingly, humans are the only species which uses sex for that purpose. The whole thing depends on the level of our discipline. Americans have a life like this. As a part of modernizing culture, majority of us believe that the culture of west is much more modernized and we simply imported their civilization. One of my teacher told me that we are doing some sort of civilization exchange between us and the west. Many of the Americans have already started following Indian culture while it is evidently proven that we are running behind what they are trying to throw out!

    From your post it is clear that you have taken an analytical approach for the problems you faced in your life. I think, it is better for you to continue it that way. Just don't run behind the majority, do what you really want to do. Actually, I am against your idea about spying such issues. If you want to stop something, the only effective way is to convince yourself that you need to stop it. You are your best teacher!! If you place cameras in the class rooms, I am pretty sure that they will think about some other options available and it is not going to stop them for any reason unless they believe that it is supposed to be stopped!

    Please don't think that they are too bad. They are just immature, ignorant and addicted to their weaknesses and these things are not always their mistake! It looks like I am going to write a comment lengthier than your post!!! Keep writing!! There will be people who have similar thoughts like you!! My best wishes!!

    Sincerely,

    Raghu

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  6. what the hell

    Sex is not some thing as u or these idiots think

    Have u ever thought that about the virginity of early man or any of the animals around us.

    Your thoughts are soo bad that is why u describe sex between lovers as such a bad thing.

    Those who love each other share their mind and body that is all.

    Having sex does not creat any difference in our life, body or mind.

    The evil minded people are creating such bloody thoughts about sex.

    Sachin

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  7. Well Said Athira... Keep Writing... Good one or I like to say Good initiative.. Keep writing on these kind of issues, which is like a Cancer in the society, but no one to act against them, an post it.. :)

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  8. hey really thats too good...hope atleast few people can change their mind. if not atleast they feel some guilty while doing such cultureless thing

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  9. Well written..
    "There was an incident which made me feel pity n at the same time time hatredness to the guys." Hope you are not hating guys in general :)

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    1. Thank you! No Im not hating guys:) Just that incident made me say so.

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